WHAT TO DO AFTER “I DO”
Congratulations! You did it! All those details you spent months agonizing over miraculously came together: you said your vows, had your party, and somehow, here you are—married! Hopefully the honeymoon was as amazing as you had hoped. Now, though, you’re back and you’re ready to dig in to life as a married couple. So… How do you do that? There are lots of post-wedding logistics to help you make a smooth transition to married life. Check out our after-wedding checklist.
- Say Thank You. Your friends and family travelled from near and far to be with you on your special day, and they probably got you nice gifts as well. So don’t wait too long to complete this oh-so-important task; we suggest you and your partner block out some time on your calendars to take care of it as soon as your honeymoon is over. Avoiding it because you don’t know what to say? Get inspiration here http://resume378.lorexddns.net/thank-you-note-format-wedding.html
- Clean and preserve your dress. If you’re planning on keeping your wedding dress for posterity, you should have your dress professionally cleaned as soon as possible. Even if you don’t think your future daughters will wear your dress someday, it’s a good idea to get it cleaned soon rather than later to deal with any stains and smells. When you pull it out of your closet in the future, you want to remember how pretty you felt in it, not those 5-year-old champagne and sweat stains.
- Review your vendors. Your wedding vendors worked tirelessly to make your day feel so magical and special, so return the favour by posting a great review on social media. It’s a great way to express your gratitude and help your vendors grow their business. And don’t just do it for them — do it so other couples can discover your amazing makeup artist or fabulous florist. It’s just good karma!
4. Take down your wedding website and registry. If you’re paying to host your wedding website, you’ll definitely want to take it down after the big day to cut costs. But also consider that both your registry and your wedding website may show up in Google results when people search for your name; remove both from the Web if you don’t want others to see them. You should probably leave the registry up for a few extra months in case some of your guests still want to give you something (common etiquette says they have up to a year to send their gifts), but if that seems unlikely, go ahead and remove it earlier.
- Legally change your name. If you’re planning to, that is! Changing your name on Facebook and Twitter is the easy part, but you also need to make time to do it legally. Take an hour to collect the necessary documents (like your international passport, bank account details (including BVN) and driver’s license, to name a few) and start to check items off your list. The longer you wait, the more likely it is that you’ll create more headaches for yourself (especially when it comes to taxes and travel) or you might even end up misplacing your marriage license. (Not that we’ve ever done that…) Commit to your name change early to make your transition into married life much easier. You can check out our next blog posts on steps for a name change in Nigeria.
- Save the cake. Don’t let those yummy wedding cake memories end with the last bite. Instruct the catering staff to take off the top tier at the end of the night and box it for transport. Appoint a ‘cake captain’ (one of your family members or close friends) to take it home and prepare it for preservation.
- Keep your bouquet. There are two ways to hold on to your flowers for the long haul. The press and frame option simply flattens a few blooms so they can be displayed in a picture frame alongside photos or your invitation; while the glass dome or shadow box optionpreserves your bouquet in its original shape and vacuum-seals it inside a glass container. Whichever method you prefer your best bet is to hire a pro for a perfect, polished look.
- Expenses. Create a combined list of your monthly expenses: rent/mortgage, utilities, cable, Internet, telephones, car payments, gas, parking, groceries, etc. And build some padding in too because there’s car maintenance and unexpected home expenses that just come up. Some things are arbitrary – assess them.
9. Bank Accounts. While it isn’t necessary to combine your bank accounts and work out of one checking account after you get married, you should have each other’s names on ALL of your accounts and make absolutely sure you have changed the next-of-kin information at your bank for those accounts. Millions are spent every year by spouses trying to untangle messes left behind in the wake of a death. Mourning is difficult enough without finding out that all the money the two of you have been stashing in an old savings account is going to go to the wrong person because you didn’t do your paperwork properly.
10. Assets. Not everything financial is bad – some brides and grooms enter marriage with trust funds, investment accounts and other significant assets. Unless you have a prenuptial agreement that excludes the new spouse from any benefit of these things, he or she should know what is there – even if they can’t access it. Beneficiary names MUST be changed or these assets will revert to the family of the departed, or whomever their prior designee was on the paperwork.
11.Plan something new. Last but definitely not least, start planning something new to look forward to. It will help ward off post-wedding blues and you’ll put those organizational skills acquired over the past year to good use. Invite friends over for a happy hour to christen your new home, throw an après-wedding name-change party, or start researching ideas for a one year anniversary vacation.
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